Revenge porn victim confronts mum of ex-boyfriend who posted sex video and explicit pictures online

July 04 00:34 2016 Print This Article

A revenge porn victim has told how she confronted the mother of ex-boyfriend who uploaded video of her having sex and explicit pictures to an adult website .

The brave woman – called ‘Jane’ to protect her identity – said she felt “physically sick” after discovering she’d been filmed in secret and the footage shared on the internet.

But as she lives in Ireland her pain was magnified by being unable to get any help from the local police, the Irish Mirror reports.

Unlike in parts of the UK, revenge porn is not a crime so her ex had not actually committed any criminal offence.

In England and Wales it is specifically against the law to share private, sexual materials – either photos or videos – of another person without their consent and with the intention of causing embarrassment or distress.

Jane decided to come forward to warn others of the dangers of sharing explicit images online.

She explained how a video recorded without her knowledge or consent had been viewed more than 10,000 times online.

A friend contacted her last February to warn a video of her having sex had been shared on a porn website.

She said: “I waited until I got home to properly look at it.

“I was too much in shock. My immediate reaction was to run to the bathroom and throw up.

“I couldn’t fully compute what I was actually seeing in front of me.

“I couldn’t look at it. I couldn’t imagine who would do it, or why they would do it.”

Jane revealed that a ten minute video of the two of them having sex – in which both of their faces can be clearly seen – had been uploaded to the adult site, along with six naked photos of her.

Jane stressed there had been “no knowledge, no consent, nothing at all” – adding that her ex-boyfriend had used a hidden webcam to record the video.

 

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Worse still, when she got it removed, he uploaded the explicit video and pics again the next day

She continued: “It was in his bedroom, in his parents’ house. That’s where he did it. He secretly filmed us in his parents’ house.

“The profile was active for at least a year, when I found it. There were over 10,000 views of the video.”

Asked how the ordeal had left her feeling, Jane replied: “Sick, disgusting. It made me feel really dirty to be honest. I didn’t know how to deal with it.

“It’s one of the most intimate, personal things. I felt so vulnerable and violated.

“It is a violation of my trust. It’s a violation of my basic human rights.

“I can’t understand it. It makes me feel physically sick that someone could do that to me.”

Jane told her parents what was going on, before going to the police station.

She said they were very helpful, but she was dismayed when they told her there was nothing they could do under current law in Ireland.

But they wrote to the porn website and succeeded in getting the videos and photos removed.

Yet just ONE DAY later – Jane was stunned to discover her ex had re-uploaded them.

It was then that Jane went – accompanied by her own parents – to confront her ex-boyfriend and his parents who he was living with at the time.

Jane explains how just her ex and his mother were home that night.

”We said we were going to go and have him prosecuted and put in jail if he didn’t delete everything,” she said.

“Pretending we hadn’t spoke to the guards. And that’s when my ex broke down.

“His mum kind of chimed in and asked him if he’d done it.

“The poor woman, she’s a lovely lady, he’s got the nicest parents. She broke down. She couldn’t believe that her son had done this.

“She asked him what I had done to deserve this and he said he didn’t know.

“He had absolutely no reasons for doing what he did. But he did delete everything in front of me.”

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The man, not pictured, post explicit pictures and video online

While the explicit video and pictures have now been deleted, Jane has no way of knowing for certain that they will not resurface online at some later date.

She has now called on the Irish government to act quickly to introduce laws prohibiting revenge porn.

She said: “Because it’s the internet, you can’t completely erase anything.

“It could be up there again. It could be up there right now for all I know, for all the world to see.

“The law needs to be changed. It’s completely archaic. It’s 2016.

“We live in the hub of international companies and we have absolutely no law there to protect our own citizens.

“It’s absolutely horrific. It’s a barbaric situation that the UK brought this law in last year, when a similar situation happened to a woman there.

“It’s horrific that this kind of thing has to come to light before anything can change. It is deplorable that I have to go and publicise my private life.”

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